Some pick up lines are unbecoming, boring and rude.
How many times have we heard cheesy pick up lines like:
“Nice shoes. Wanna bang?”
“Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?”
“Your daddy must have been a thief, because he stole the stars and put them in your eyes.”
Face it, using lines like this will cause a girl to run the other way. Pick up lines like these make you look like an idiot.
Consequently, bad pick up lines get too much attention, therefore everyone thinks all pick up lines are lame.
This simply is not true.
Using good pick up lines actually assist you in picking up a woman.
Understand: The whole point of using a pick up line is to get a conversation started.
That is all.
Once you get the girl talking with you, then you can work your magic and do what you need to do to get the date, the phone number, or the make-out.
If you cannot begin a conversation, you can do little else.
You want something more that just talking to a woman; you want to engage her in a good conversation. Drawing her into your conversation is the only means of continuing your relationship journey.
Good pick up lines help you do this.
When I first started going out to meet women, I was always at a loss of what to say to first meet a girl. I was always trying to think of something to say off the top of my head, and more often than not, I’d miss my opportunity to meet a great girl because it took me too long to think something up.
This is why you should know a couple of good working pick up lines. Situations like these may hinder you from being original and you need something to help you get the ball rolling.
Never, consider that you can slide by with a line such as:
“Don’t I know you from somewhere?”
This is lame pick up line and women know it, this is not a clever pick up line and makes you look bad.
Also, doing things like asking for directions, telling a girl she looks like a certain celebrity, and complimenting her on a piece of clothing are BAD ways to pick a girl up.
Why do you think this is?
These lines do not engage the woman, since once she answers you; the conversation has nowhere to go.
Bad pick up lines have yes and no answers. Good pick up lines get a woman to thinking about her response, while encouraging an emotional reaction from her, this causes her to want to continue talking with you.
So how do you engage a girl?
Easy, ask her opinion about some issue, since each woman has her own opinion, she likes to share with other, especially when it concerns relationships.
So to give you an example, you could say something like: “Hey, can I get your opinion on something real quick? Do you think it’s weird for a woman to try and get pregnant because she wants her baby to be born under a certain astrological sign? I really want to hear a woman’s perspective on this.”
Then follow up with a short story of how a woman may want her and her children’s zodiac sign to be compatible, so they interact well together throughout their lives.
These various types of subjects for conversation can be about:
1. Children 2. Marriage 3. Astrology 4. Pregnancy 5. Relationships
The numerous ideas for conversations are unlimited. Here you will find a few of my favorite follow-ups.
“Do you think there’s something to astrology?” (then lead into more discussion about destiny or fate.)
“What is your zodiac sign?” (This can lead to talking about your sign compatibility – as a general rule, no matter what your sign is – you are compatible!)
“Are you fond of children? You seem very nurturing.”
I could go on and on, but you get the idea.
The design of a good pick up line engages a woman into deep and interesting conversations that provide you with an opportunity to get to know one another as you become familiar with each other.
This is how conversations are started!
From that point, it should be rather easy to ask her for a telephone number and possibly set up a first date.
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When it’s time to strike up a conversation with a woman, some guys (maybe you), get shy and tongue-tied, only to end up frustrated and angry at themselves for not knowing what to say or how to say it.
Or maybe you just don’t want to say anything because you’ve gotten the brush off before and you assume it’s because of what you said. If this sounds like you, take heart. You don’t have to spend the rest of your life spouting gibberish at every pretty girl you see and then slinking home in embarrassment.
Women like to see confidence in a man. Not cockiness, but confidence. You have to find ways to project that. Confidence is projected not only by what you say, but the way you walk and stand, and by other kinds of body language like eye contact and your smile. Here are some good tips for helping you get past your shy, tongue-tied self.
1.Walking and standing – Don’t try the John Travolta Saturday Night Fever walk unless you’ve got the music going in the background! Walking with confidence means that you’re posture is straight, your head is up and shoulders relaxed (not slumping). It should look natural. If you don’t think you can do it, watch your favorite actors, politicians, sportscasters, etc., and emulate them. If this sounds stupid just remember that if you have a Napoleon Dynamite walk (or run), you’re going to look awkward. Confident standing is a natural extension of a confident walk. You need to be straight, but relaxed. You don’t have to look like a Marine at attention. Folding your arms makes you look defensive or like you’re hiding something. You’re better off putting them in your pockets or holding a drink or file or car part or your grocery bag.
2.Eye contact – You have to be able to look a woman in the eye. Staring is wrong, unless you want to scare her. When you are talking to her, look at her for a few seconds, and then briefly look away – not like you’re distracted, just natural eye movement. At the beginning of a conversation, when you are greeting her and introducing yourself, hold eye contact for a few seconds and smile. The same thing should happen at the end of the conversation. This is tricky. Just do what comes naturally, unless your natural inclination is to look at the floor or stare during the whole conversation.
3.Smile – Smiling is like eye contact. Utterly necessary, but easy to overdo.
4.The talk – Now that you have figured out how to project confidence visually, you need to back that up with conversation. Any conversation you have with a new woman should be positive and fun. If you need to rehearse a few different opening lines that can be used for any occasion that’s fine. If you’re at the gym, you can smile and ask her what she thinks of the new row of elliptical machines that have been added. If you’re at church, you can mention how much you like that Pastor So-and-So adds humor to his sermons. If you’re at the NASCAR race, you can compliment her on her choice of favorite driver (as indicated by the t-shirt or ball cap she’s wearing). If she smiles and seems interested in having a conversation with you, you need to confidently take the ball and run. Be prepared.
Talking to new women can be nerve-wracking, but it’s a necessary pre-requisite to dating. Take some time to prepare yourself to present a confident you, and let nature take its course.
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It’s never a good idea to walk up to a woman and say, “Are you tired? Because you’ve been running through my mind all day.” Openers like that are sure to make your intended target run in the other direction. So what do you say as your opening line, and how can you say it so that you don’t come off as an idiot? First, don’t pre-plan your icebreakers. They’ll sound forced and your potential date will not be impressed.
Stay away from anything cheesy and even the over-used, “Don’t I know you from somewhere?” There are better ways to break the ice and get a conversation started.
At Work:
- Offer to help. If she’s carrying something, setting something up, taking something down, or otherwise doing something that it looks like she might appreciate some assistance with, offer it.
- Ask her something. Ask her if she knows where the mechanical pencils are stored or if she has the phone number for the Rochester branch, or if you could borrow her packing tape (then return it with your thanks and a cup of coffee).
- Compliment her. Tell her that you thought she did a great job with the presentation or that you like the way she handled that rude customer, or that you thought the joke she told in the break room was really funny.
- Ask her to help you. Ask her to show you how to do something on the computer, or to explain how pro-rated vacation time works.
At the Gym, Bark Park, Book Club, Cooking Class, Etc.:
- Smile and say, “Have you ever tried the spinning class? I’m thinking of trying it.”
- If you’re at the Bark Park, compliment her four legged friend such as saying, “Nice puppy. Is he purebred?”
- At the library, ask, “How do you feel about this book? I’m having a love/hate relationship with the main character.”
- If you’re in a class together in college or for a specific skill, ask, “Have you enjoyed the class so far? My friends are pretty impressed with my newfound cooking abilities!”
At the Bar:
- Say, “Gosh it’s loud in here, isn’t it?” Or ask what time the bar closes. You don’t have to seem like you’re trying to meet her – she just happens to be the one you start talking to.
You’ll get far more points for noticing that she could use a hand or that she has a cute dog, or that she has a nice smile than if you try to come off as some sort of misguided Don Juan.
Pick up lines and cheesy icebreakers seldom work. If you need to practice and think of possible lines in order to be prepared for any chance that might present itself, that’s fine, but you have to remain flexible and relaxed so that you don’t sound like you were just waiting to use that line on the first girl that happened to come along.
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